Has anyone else come across the “you’re looking well” phenomenon?
It’s when you’ve lost a bit of weight, or maybe like me you started off with a lot of weight to lose, and are 30 pounds down, there’s just a long way yet to go. People notice that there is something different about you, but don’t want to commit themselves to commenting on the weight loss in case they’re mistaken or cause offense. So instead they come over and saying “You’re looking really well today”. I find it particularly ironic and amusing when a two of ladies said it to me a couple of weeks ago when I was actually suffering with a horrible cold and actually felt anything but ‘well’!
Has anyone else come across this phenomenon?
I don’t know about that one… I think back in the beginning I may have gotten a few “Are you wearing your hair differently?” type comments.
What kills me is that - after losing 69 pounds- people are still going “Have you lost weight??”
Comment by blestwithsons — April 10, 2007 @ 10:12 am
I just guessed peeps wanna be careful not to sound like, “You sure look better than you used to!” or “Were you once as fat as I remember?”
I think i am going to pay closer attention to the stupid things I say so no one blogs about me.
Comment by missy — April 10, 2007 @ 11:10 am
I guess my friends are just blunt. They usually turn their heads sideways while looking at me and say, “Are you losing weight?” I don’t think you could ever go wrong saying that to a woman. People have said it to me even after I’ve gained a few pounds and it always makes me feel good. lol
Comment by Jennifer — April 10, 2007 @ 1:40 pm
I don’t think Americans are as likely to tell someone they’re looking well, anyway.
But I’ve gotten a few “You look good” followed by a cautious, “Have you lost weight?”
Last week someone asked me if there was less of me. That was a new one!
Comment by Jana — April 10, 2007 @ 2:01 pm
I’ve also been told ‘there’s less of you isn’t there?’
Comment by Debs — April 10, 2007 @ 2:15 pm
I got lots of “you’re looking well” type comments on Sunday, seeing people I hadn’t seen in about 3 months. Curiously it was an American friend who guessed pretty much to the pound how much I’d lost. She also said I looked good and congratulated me.
Comment by Bekki — April 11, 2007 @ 1:38 am